Touch is such a powerful tools. It can soothe, give confidence and make people feel loved. Everyone needs touch especially when we got older and all the touches become scarce because of the changes around us. Babies need touch to be familiarize with their surroundings and people around them. Children need touch to assure them they are safe and loved. Teenager need touch to feel welcome and accepted. Adult need touch to feel warm and complete. Every step in our life we need to touch and be touched.
Our sense of self is related to our sense of touch; with how we feel. We stroke our forearms; we run our fingers through our hair to relieve stress. And as we age, we need more assurance that we are loved.
Touch can help you with a lot of thing such as
Stress Reliever & It Makes You Smarter Too
Touch can help you with a lot of thing such as
Stress Reliever & It Makes You Smarter Too
Researchers at the University of Miami had people do a difficult math problem, then had them do it again after receiving a chair massage. Post-massage, subjects showed increased speed and accuracy in solving the problems as well as more pleasure in the task, thanks to the reduction of stress. Dacher Keltner, Ph.D., of the University of California, Berkeley, author of Born to Be Good: The Science of a Meaningful Life, discovered that athletes who frequently give each other a high five or a "good job!" pat during games do better in team sports than the ones who don't physically interact. While the flying chest bumps that pro athletes share are probably not part of your work environment, you can practice what Keltner calls "smart touch: encouraging pats on the back, friendly handshakes, and playful fist bumps."
Shift Your Mood From Bad to Better
Scientists are discovering that you don't have to touch another person to receive a sensory lift. Next time you're feeling low, cradle a steaming mug of coffee or tea in your hands. If you're like most of us, it will put you in a more generous mood; a 2008 Yale study by social psychologist John Bargh, Ph.D., showed that people tend to think more warmly of others if they're holding something warm. You could also warm up your mood by booking a massage, getting a shampoo at a salon, or meeting a friend for lunch and giving her a big hug.
Relationship Stands Better
"One of the key places we can use touch is in our families," says Hertenstein. "A lot of fathers are reluctant to hug their sons for fear of how they will be perceived. But touch increases bonding with those around us. I give my 5-year-old son a two- or three-minute back rub each night as I tell him a story." Touch may mean more to men than they let on: A 2011 study by the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction polled more than 1,000 men and their female partners in five countries about the power of touch and found that for men between the ages of 40 and 70, regular cuddling was more important than sex. The more men hugged and kissed, the happier they considered their relationships. "The most important thing is to have a frequent dose [of touch]," says Field. "Like diet and exercise, if you don't have it daily, the effects will go away."
So there you go. Touches can make the world feel better and look better. Hug your child today for starter and see how it builds much comfortable and warm relationship between the two of you. You can always pat her on the head when she's done a great job and hold her hands while you lecture her on her bad behaviour. Any how it will makes everything seems warmer, genuine and lovely.